A nine-month partnership
HELD
You already sense this isn't down to luck. You've built a life that works - a career you're proud of, a home that's yours, good friends. You've probably done real work on yourself already. Yet your love life keeps ending up in the same place, just with someone new.
The fact that you're here already tells me something. Most women stay stuck in this pattern for years, hoping the next person will simply be different - but now you've decided to stop waiting and actually do something about it. It has already put you ahead.
So let's do the real work now.
What is HELD?
This nine-month partnership exists to change the pattern - not just help you understand it, but help you actually live and choose differently because of what you learn.
Heal from past relationship patterns, the ones formed long before you had the words for them and stop them from choosing your partners for you.
Evolve to become confident, secure and more deeply yourself than you have ever been before and date from your steadiest self, released from old fears.
Learn new powers of discernment and relationship skills, so you can tell the difference between real connection and familiar old chemistry. You’ll be more able to do this from early communications, way before you are three months in and emotionally involved.
Discover magnetic matches and date from a completely new place within yourself.
The nine months move through three phases
Phase One
Uncovering
Four modules of uncovering work, paced to you rather than the calendar, where we find the blueprint underneath your patterns and begin to release what has been holding you back.
Phase Two
In practice
We put that work into practice: we create your magnetic dating profile, develop your shortlist, evaluate your actual conversations and dates, with me beside you every step of the way.
Phase Three
The close
A personal document of what you have discovered and who you have become, something to keep long after our work together ends.
What nine months together includes
- Regular one to one sessions with me throughout, weekly to start while we do the deepest work, moving to twice a month once you're dating
- WhatsApp access between sessions, for the message that throws you, the date that leaves you unsettled, anything that cannot wait until our next call
- A personal workbook for each module, so you can take the work away and journal what comes up for you
- A guided read through Calling in the One by Katherine Woodward Thomas, one chapter at a time, alongside our work together
- Hands-on help writing and refining your dating profile, so it actually reflects who you are
- If you prefer to meet your dates in person, we will shape your plan
- Support shortlisting and reading profiles once you're live on the apps, so you're not guessing who deserves your time
- Live coaching as you move into conversations and actual dates, working through what comes up as it happens, not weeks later
- A personal Dating Playbook at the end: your values, what you're looking for and reminders for moments of doubt, yours to keep long after our nine months together ends
You will not be doing this alone
The reason this works is not only the framework, it is that I am right there with you while you use it. Letting go of patterns you have carried for years, sometimes decades, can feel unsettling before it feels freeing. Those patterns formed in the first place because, at some point, you did not have someone steady beside you when you needed them. This time, you do.
I am not only a Calling in the One coach. I trained and worked as a psychotherapist for more than thirty years before I ever became a love coach, which means I know how to make this process feel safe, even in the parts that feel difficult. You will have someone who has already walked this path herself and with other women, who understands what is coming up for you and who will not let go of your hand while you find your feet again.
That is what makes this different from working through it on your own. You are never carrying it by yourself.
What women say
I felt safe. I felt safe to explore. I felt safe to be myself. I felt safe. To be honest, I felt safe to be vulnerable. If I hadn't had that space to do all those things, I wouldn't have been able to change.
I have never been happier. I am now in a relationship... I feel so much more satisfied in my life. I feel I am in a happy relationship and it's a relationship that I'm still able to grow in and learn from.
It's a beautiful programme that takes you to learning more about yourself and discovering the parts of you that you may have suppressed... you'll find that you attract what you are blooming into.
Before you begin, a few honest answers
Is nine months too long a commitment?
Real change in how you love does not happen in six weeks. Nine months gives your patterns enough time to actually shift, not just be understood.
I have already done a lot of therapy. Will this be different?
Most therapy helps you understand your patterns. This is built to help you live differently because of what you understand, tested in real dating, with me alongside you as it happens.
What if I'm not sure I'm ready to date yet?
You do not need to feel ready today. Phase One is where readiness gets built. You just need to be willing to look honestly at what has been happening so far.
Is £12,000 really worth it?
Only you can answer what changing this pattern is worth to you. What I can tell you is that the women who do this work do not look back wishing they had spent less time understanding themselves. They wish they had started sooner.
By the end, you will understand why the same pattern kept finding you and you will have the tools to choose differently. Whether you finish this partnership newly in love or simply ready for it, you will be starting from yourself, not from the old blueprint.
I have spent more than forty years as a psychotherapist and love coach. For these nine months, I will be right here with you.
If this feels right
Fill in the short enquiry form below, and I will personally be in touch to arrange a call, so we can find out together whether this is the right fit for you.